Unfortunately, bullying is becoming increasingly common, with as many as 1 in 6 children being bullied in some way on a weekly basis.
NIP BULLYING IN THE BUD WITH DRYNITES
What causes bedwetting?
If your child is going through a bedwetting phase, you’re probably wondering what’s causing it. The short answer is that it’s usually down to a minor developmental delay, which will straighten itself out over time. It’s quite rare for bedwetting to be caused by an underlying medical condition. The most common form of bedwetting is called primary nocturnal enuresis. This refers to when a child has never been dry at night. Common causes are things like genetics, a neurological development delay between the bladder and brain, or the underproduction of the antidiuretic hormone ADH that signals to the kidneys to produce less urine at night. The other type of bedwetting is secondary nocturnal enuresis. This refers to a child who has been dry for six months or more, and then starts to wet the bed. This is typical the result of underlying medical issues or by emotional factors. For children with primary nocturnal enuresis, it means your child’s bladder capacity has not developed to the point of being able to hold urine overnight. Children who wet the bed at night may have a nervous system that is slow to process the feeling of a full bladder. So your child does not wake up or respond to the messages sent from their bladder to their brain saying its full and needs emptying. As their body matures the messages sent from the bladder start to get through and your child learns to wake and go to the toilet. Most children who experience bedwetting haven’t reached this developmental stage yet. But don’t worry, they’ll get there soon. While deep sleeping certainly plays a role in bedwetting it is not the primary cause of why it happens in the first place. Deep sleeping just makes it even harder for children to response to the signal sent from their bladder telling them to ‘wake-up’. Secondary nocturnal enuresis is a little more complex. If your child has been dry at night for six months and they relapse back to bedwetting, it’s often a sign of emotional problems or stress. Common catalysts include big events, such as moving house, a new sibling, or starting school. Stressful situations, including tension in the home, death of a family member or pet, or being bullied at school can also cause your child to start wetting the bed again. Other causes of secondary bedwetting include minor medical conditions, such as constipation or a urinary tract infection. In very rare cases, bedwetting can be caused by diabetes. One thing to remember through all of this is that the cause is never laziness. It’s important to remain calm and not to take out any frustration on your child, even though it can be a real pain to change sheets every night. Provide some extra support to your child by using DryNites® Night Time Pants or BedMats. It gives them a little more independence and they’re an effective safety net at night.Read transcript +
TYPES OF BULLYING
Bullying refers to aggressive behaviours that intentionally cause hurt or harm to a child. These behaviours can be physical or verbal, and are typically repeated over time. We say a child is being bullied when another child or several other children:
- Say or do mean or hurtful things
- Hit, kick, punch, or shove
- Exclude them from their group or leave them out of things on purpose, repeatedly
- Spread rumours or tell lies, or try and make other children not like them
Cyberbullying: via the internet and smart phones. This can occur at any time, day or night, and in any location. Children cannot escape it even in their own home. It can be observed by large audiences and it is easier for cyber than traditional bullies to shield their identity.
No matter how often a child is told to just ignore it, the fact is that bullying hurts. Children who are bullied can experience a range of negative outcomes including, depression, anxiety, bedwetting, social withdrawal, lack of friends, loneliness, dislike or avoidance of school, poor academic performance and suicidal tendencies.
HOW TO DEAL WITH BULLYING
Children can go to great lengths to hide the fact that they are being bullied. They may do this because they are embarrassed or believe if they tell someone the situation will only get worse.
So how can you tell if your child is being bullied? Look for changes in behaviour.
Spotting the signs of bullying:
- Increase in aggressive behaviours or bullying of siblings
- Unexplained injuries
- Increase in physical ailments like headaches or stomach aches, or pretending to be sick so they can stay home from school
- Lost or destroyed property
- Nightmares or sleep disturbances
- Feelings of helplessness or low self-esteem
- School avoidance or lack of interest in school work
- Drop in academic performance
- Reduced social contact with friends or loss of friendships
Taking action against bullying:
- Find out as much as you can about the situation
- Reassure your child that this is not their fault
- Contact the preschool or school and ask to see the bullying policy
- Ensure regular follow-up meetings until you have reached a positive resolution
- Get your child involved in activities that encourage independence, assertiveness and healthy peer relationships (e.g., sporting teams, cubs or scouts, dance, drama club)
Encourage your child to behave assertively in threatening situations.
HOW TO DEAL WITH BULLIES
Victims of bullying rarely feel as though they are able to stop it themselves.
Children who are witnesses to bullying are referred to as bystanders. Bystanders have three main roles, they can:
- Assist and encourage the bully (bully assistant)
- Passively watch the bullying (witnesses)
- Actively intervene to support the victim and try to stop the bullying (defenders).
If you have any particular questions, please ask Dr. Cathrine and she will personally answer any concerns you have.