Self Confidence


One of the best ways for kids to build confidence and self-esteem is through having successful experiences.


Self-esteem refers to the attitudes or feelings children have toward themselves. Self-confidence is the belief children have in themselves, their capabilities and their capacity to achieve.

Children may feel good about one aspect of themselves, but not so good about another. Feelings about their performance at school, ability to make friends, physical appearance, behaviour, sporting ability, whether or not they wet the bed – all contribute toward their overall self-worth.

As your big kid develops, they learn more about themselves and form their self-image. From this, and from people close to them, they begin to make evaluations about what type of person they are.

A child’s self-esteem tends to decline during the primary school years. This can happen for several reasons, for example, they:

  • Become more interested in the world around them and become more realistic
  • Learn critical thinking skills which can be applied to themselves
  • Absorb the behaviour of others and are influenced by social comparisons

Understanding this as a parent is important in helping your child build self-confidence.

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Understandably, wetting the bed can really upset a child. Particularly if it happens more than once.

This perceived lack of success can result in low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence. This can lead to:

  • Shying away from social events – invitations like sleepovers or school camp can be particularly stressful, because of their fear of discovery.
  • Feelings of failure – older kids may feel as though they have failed their parents, too.

Kids are acutely aware of other kid’s feelings about bedwetting. This makes them even more sensitive to negative attitudes and social biases. You are who they look to for reassurance. Every time you are positive and encouraging, you are helping them.


Self-esteem influences all aspects of kids’ behaviour and development.

While children with high self-esteem think of themselves in a pretty positive light, kids with low-self-esteem are much more likely to focus on things they do “wrong” rather than on the many strengths that they may have.

The more positive your child’s self-esteem, the more self-confident and proud they will be of themselves – they will not let things like bedwetting impact on their positive sense of self-worth.

Children with high self-esteem and confidence are better able to cope with all manner of situations, like bedwetting, but also:

  • Starting a new school
  • School tests
  • Forming close, high quality friendships
  • Decision-making
  • Standing up for themselves and others
  • Trying new things
  • Being independent
  • Setting goals
  • Caring about themselves and others

A child with high self-esteem will therefore see their bedwetting as just a small ‘hiccup’ in their overall development.