My son used to wet his pants at school so I started to punish him every time he came home with wet pants in his bag and he has since stopped wetting at school. He still wets at home, normally while watching tv or playing outside and I don't punish him for it. I don't buy him diapers or protection, just regular underwear but I do have to do lots of washing but at home in private, I dont really care as noone sees him in wet pants etc. He has always wet his bed and uses a rubber sheet but no other protection but as long as he does his own washing and changes his own bed and doesn't wake me up in the middle of the night, it doesn't bother me much. He is 9 years old. Should I force him to wear diapers day and night? Should I punish him for wetting? Should I try and shame him into being dry like making him aware only babies wear diapers or wet themselves? On occasion, if he is in a bad mood, he will stand in front of me and deliberately wet himself I guess his way of saying "stuff you" or something ??!
It is not uncommon for parents to respond to bedwetting by either punishing their child or ignoring the problem with the hope that it will go away. Neither one of these responses is particularly helpful and can in fact do damage to your child and make the bedwetting worse. It may be helpful to know that children who wet the bed rarely do it on purpose. Some children wet the bed because they are unable to recognize messages that their bladder sends to their brain telling them to wake-up and go to the toilet. Others may have a small bladder capacity and are unable to hold the urine until morning when they wake. Genetics plays a major role – with bedwetting running in families. While bedwetting is rarely a sign of emotional or psychological problems, his daytime behaviour is a cause for concern. If you have not already done so I would recommend that you speak with you GP and get a referral to a pediatrician to receive a thorough assessment. He or she will also be able to discuss treatment options with you. I would certainly advise against forcing him to wear DryNites although you could definitely talk about the benefits of wearing absorbent pants at night, particularly if it is your son who has to take responsibility for his own wet sheets. While it is fine for parents to encourage children to be independent and help with the laundry it is important that this is not seen as a punishment. You need to reassure your son that he has your full support at all times and that this is something your will solve together.
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